Healing Through Self Love

One must love oneself enough to heal oneself. This is very much the foundation of spiritual life and holistic healing. What is it that makes you love yourself in order to heal yourself? First, it’s primarily based on a non-egoic statement articulated by one’s inner experience. A lot of people have lost touch with the full experience of their soul. There are different ways to deal with this, but to connect with your soul there is a path one has to walk in order to reconnect. Not everyone is willing to make the effort to reestablish that connection, so when that connection is made, one begins to have the non-causal love – love without a cause. One begins to have non-causal peace, non-causal contentment, non-causal oneness, and non-causal compassion. This is a very deep part of who we are. It is our natural human state. This is why I don’t necessarily teach compassion, love, and peace, because these are all non-causal expressions of our natural human state. It is our natural state. At the same time, we are not so in touch with that. It is that natural state of who we are as human beings that’s the turn on.

It’s that aspect where we are connecting to our soul on the regular basis that then provides the motivation to keep living in a way that continues to connect us with our soul. In yoga we call this sanatana dharma. This is the natural way of living that brings us to enlightenment. What I’m referring to is the pre-enlightenment state. This non-causal awareness is stronger in enlightenment, but it is not limited to this state. The experience increases the more that one connects with their own soul. Those natural qualities are who we are. When people aren’t able to make that connection, they begin to turn to the dark side, and they do things in order to feel alive. This gets people in a variety of troubles if those things aren’t aligned with and more deeply connected with their soul. Real aliveness comes from experiencing the truth of who we are.
Part of sanatana dharma is the disciplines of the Six Foundations and the Seven Fold Peace.

This includes:
1) Eating in a way that helps to quiet the mind and uplifts the whole planetary force of life, and does not create death, misery, or cruelty.
2) Building the body’s life-force, whether through tai chi, chi kung, TriYoga, or pranayama exercises. These open up and expand the prana (or life force). When the prana expands, it expands consciousness.
3) Service and Charity opens our hearts to other people and lets the love flow. It is actually a natural part of being a human being; however, in our world society, we tend to close our hearts for self-protection.

Non-causal is not the same thing as unconditional. All relationships have conditions. That actually keeps things in order; otherwise there is not necessarily safety. We hear about unconditional love, but the truth is that I’ve never seen a long-term healthy, sacred relationship that is unconditional. The unconditional personal relationship concept is a confusing teaching. This is in contrast to having unconditional love for all of humanity. Non-casual love is solid because that’s our natural state. Love is always flowing. When we’re talking about relationships, we’re talking about intimacy that requires safety and bottom-line conditions. A safe space is required in order to open up. I mentioned that because that is an important part when we use the word love. There is non-causal love for all, but in the context of intimate relationship, love is conditional. Once you tap into the source of love, love is still going to flow. The rest of the relationship is activating and opening even more love.

If one can experience that spark of the Divine within oneself, then one can begin to experience this within other people. One can begin to tell the difference between the limited reality and the absolute reality. We have to play as hard as we can in the world of limited realty as long as we keep the perspective of the absolute. The whole experience of loving oneself in order to heal yourself is based on that reality perception, which then allows one to play in the limited worlds of the physical and astral realities in that way.

4) The fourth foundation is when people are ready to work with a spiritual teacher.
5) Creating inner silence is the fifth foundation for spiritual life. Meditating even just half an hour twice daily keeps a flow going by keeping the avenues open to the non-causal reality that we are. Prayer is a part of this foundation. In Hebrew, we say l’hitpallel, which means “become one’s prayer”. It requires that we make the corrections within ourselves. Part of the foundation of sacred silence is chanting and mantra repetition because this also quiets the mind. A lot of people struggle with their thoughts. But it is best to keep focused on the Divine and not fight our thoughts. Then we don’t have to worry about our thoughts. It is best to activate the spiritual energy as much as possible. If one doesn’t have this, it becomes a tiring discipline. The more one can experience that non-causal awareness and experience of who we truly are, the more one is simply motivated to live that way. It feels good. It feels connected. The soul is nourished. When we are connected with our soul, we naturally feel the non-causal love. It is the power of this love that empowers us enough to heal ourselves.

Loving oneself in order to heal oneself is a prime understanding of and a foundation for spiritual life. When one lives in this way, it takes care of itself. May everybody be blessed with the power of being able to love themselves enough to heal.