Aligned Intentions

The power of intention can help you, but it can also get in your way.  Power has to be blended with the flow of grace in your life.  All power has to have this balance otherwise our intention becomes more ego-based.  Even if we have a good intention, we have to be watchful of this.  Another subtly to question is, is the intention coming from you or from your ego?  This can be a hard question.  We don’t always have the answer to that.  As we get more aligned with the Divine unfolding, the intention comes out of that rather than out of ego.  The question that we are asking about power is, “Where is the intention rising from?”  Even if it is a good intention, is it aligned with the Divine force?  This is self-examination as this question unfolds.

Along with that intention is Netzach or perseverance.   This is the follow-through.  You may have the greatest of intentions and yet the energetic follow-through doesn’t take you there.  We may have visions or be a visionary, but there is also that second level of Divine force to see it through.  One issue with that is that if you try to hard, it can also throw things out of balance.  How do you know how hard to try or how far to go?  This is not an easy question.  There is a time to push hard to make something happen and there is also a time not to push hard.  This takes us to the discrimination aspect of spiritual life.   It’s not like there is a rule to this.  We like rules but they can get into the way.   We can start out moderate and then assess what is happening.

This can be applied to spiritual life as well as to relationships.  In relationships people can override the flow by trying too hard.  On the other hand, if you do not try hard enough you don’t really work through your family of origin issues or your intra-psychic issues.  It does happen that sometimes people get in the way of the process by trying too hard.  However, today it is very common not to try hard enough.  You have to be in the relationship long enough for the family of origin and intro-psychic issues to begin to surface (what is sometimes called the 7-year itch) and then long enough for these to be worked through.  You are making a certain vestment.  Once again, we must access where to find the balance.  This is where the development of internal guidance is of the essence.  We must continue to ask the questions as our intentions and as to what the situation calls for.  If we don’t even ask the questions we are not close enough.

Part of the value of the teacher is that this support lends experience and overview for the question.  When there is someone you can trust, you can receive some feedback that is not coming from any personal investment other than to support you.  At some point it is still up to you, which requires a certain amount of self-examination.  This is true for examining what is needed in relationships.   For a healthy relationship, there needs to be a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual connection.  This is fundamental.  If you only have a wonderful mental connection or sexual connection, it is not the fullest.  This is where one must look at their intentions and ask themselves, “What am I doing here?”, “Is there enough love to motivate me to work through my family of origin issues?”, “Am I in the right situation for me to be able to evolve,” etc.  A metaphor that one of my teachers used to use is that it is better to have one 100 foot well than ten 10 foot deep wells.  However, a lot of people today are digging a lot of 10-foot holes.  The depth, character, and quality then doesn’t get developed in the process.  The relationship isn’t valued.  There isn’t the willingness to dig the 100-foot hole in order to hit the water, or the cosmic connection.  Part of this is having the intuition.  There are times when people have to go with the intuition that they can trust where the relationship is going even when things get rough or inconvenient.  The questions we ask during this process are heart-felt questions.

This is a part of the big picture.  For me the big picture is to die into the nothing.  It is to merge with God.  Part of the big picture is your individual dharma.  Another question that we ask is if we are aligned with our individual dharma and that unique expression.  If those two are in alignment then it gives you perspective on what you are doing.  At times we may know that despite the difficulty, we are to keep doing the work.  At other times, we may know that doing what is very difficult may not be the best use of one’s time.  The spiritual path is about going into the unknown and it important to ask ourselves if we are putting ourselves in the right place to blossom.   Both the dharma to know the Divine and the individual dharma have to be aligned to bring the power to what we are doing.

May everybody be blessed with proper application of power in your lives.  Amen.